“A house is merely a place of shelter while a home is a
garden of love and comfort. A mansion could be a house while a hut could be a
home. Marriage is a union of two strangers who decided to become the best of
friends. There’s no such thing like bad marriage. Every marriage is good but
there are marriages where there are two people who vehemently refused to understand
each other but take pleasure in fighting each other. We do not marry to compete
each other, we marry to complete each other” – FrankChima Okorie
It’s heart breaking when marriage designed to be enjoyed turns out to be endured. It hurts a lot when a house molded to be a home turns out to be a dreaded zone, even when it is a mansion with its high level of comfort. The question is, what in God’s name can make two lovers giggling on their wedding day suddenly despise each other to the extent of willingly signing divorce papers?
Africa is a beautiful continent with enviable cultural
heritage but it’s quite unfortunate that most Africans do not value what they
have. Civilization is one of the best tools anybody can work with when
positively used but it can also be a very dangerous tool when negatively used.
In this part of the world, in Africa, there are some cultures that are so
beautiful and important to the extent that changing them means fermenting trouble.
I always tell people, as an African man or woman, please be careful with what
you read on internet because it can make or mar you. REFINED African marriage
is very beautiful and I am very happy to be a partaker of it. Beautiful people,
let us learn to appreciate and respect our unique cultures. Westerners have
their unique culture and should live by it. Africans also have their unique
culture and should also live by it. If there is any need to borrow culture, it
should be for the good purpose of building ourselves and not consciously or
unconsciously destroying ourselves.
No matter how we shy
away from the truth, there are UNIQUE responsibilities/duties/roles apportioned
to every husband and wife or every father and mother. When these unique responsibilities
are neglected, Mr. Trouble comes in. The things that break homes most times, are
the little foxes that are unconsciously and gradually fed until they grow to be wolves that tear down homes. When
a husband and wife or father and mother fit in to their respective roles perfectly,
the little foxes that roam about seeking for homes to destroy will be starved
to death.
Before we continue, I emphatically want to let you know that
every happy home you see around has God as the pillar. Our relationship with
God is a paramount factor in everything (marriage inclusive) we do in life. If
at this juncture, you are yet to give your life to Jesus Christ, I advise that
you do so now and not later. Go ahead and confess your sins to Him and ask for
forgiveness. Accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Savior, decisively
determine to worship God in truth and in spirit. If you have done that,
congratulations for you are a born again, a new creature and old things are now
in the past.
Now, what are these roles/duties/responsibilities apportioned
to husband and wife or father and mother?
To be continued tomorrow.
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