Marriage is not for boys and girls.

Marriage is for men & women, not for boys and girls. Do not be deceived by age when we talk about marriage because there are 20year old men and 40year old boys. A 20 year old man may be young in age but quite equipped with sense of maturity. A 40year old man may be old age wise but very far from sense of maturity. Though he is growing old but he refused to grow up. He's simply man boy. Just as we have man boy, so do we have woman girl, so far from sense of maturity, growing old but not growing up. Friends, before you get married, pray as if your life depends on it & be WISE because marriage can make or mar you. Man boy/woman girl is simply bad news to marriage.
Men, any lady that cannot comfortably explain her vision& purpose on earth but always gives you list of things(brazilian/peruvian hair, latest phone, shoes, bags, dresses, even car & house, etc) to buy, any lady that doesn't ask or care how you make your money, doesn't care about nor key into your vision, prepares for a world class wedding even when she is bankrupt about what marriage is, my brother please lose her and let her go!
She is a liability and not an asset. Bible says that a man that findeth a wife findeth good thing and obtaineth a favor from God. The same Bible pronounces a woman a helpmate to her husband. Ladies please, I beg you in God's name, getting married/making babies should not be seen as a vision. Getting married and having children is what every man or woman(except the religious) will do someday. God created you for a purpose. You're a solution to a problem in the world. You can't afford to live a life without purpose. You can't afford to breeze in, get married, bear children and die. That will be a great insult to God's creative ability! God is a serious minded investor & He invested so much in you to lose you, just like that. If you're reading this post and you have no vision, no source of income, please wake up and sit up. Its very wrong to be totally dependent on a man, let alone the one that's not yet your husband. Its quite degrading & paints a negative picture of you. Get yourself empowered so that your self worth and respect will be intact. Ladies, any man that cannot comfortably describe his vision and purpose on earth(whether rich or poor because physical cash can turn to nothing in a twinkle of an eye), any man that believes that kitchen/bedroom is the only place you belong, any man that wants to marry you just for procreation, any man that doesn't believe in your vision, please lose him and let him go! Men, the original and basic reason God initiated the institution of marriage is for COMPANIONSHIP, every other thing is secondary for GOD said, “It's not good for the Man to be alone; I'll make him a helper, a companion.” If your intention for marriage is just for baby making, then somebody is bound to be hurt in the marriage because after making the babies, the marriage is as good as gone and what happens if babies ended up not coming? Please give your woman an opportunity to live a life of purpose. Deborah was a wife, a mother and a judge. Give her a chance for she can be a wonderful wife, mother and career woman at the same time, that is if she knows what she's doing. Allow that Seed of Greatness God planted in her to germinate, blossom and bear fruit. Marriage can be heaven on earth if you have the right concept. Do not embark on the journey as a boy or girl. Get fully prepared. My desire is to see you succeed in all your endeavors.