Work Stress And Marriage

As Mr. Uzo was driving home after a very hectic day under a very difficult boss, he was so depressed and annoyed. He kept mumbling to himself. “What kind of man is this Mr. Johnson? What manner of man can never be impressed by anybody? I have never seen this man impressed by anybody in this God forsaken office. Oh death! If not for the demise of Mr. Stephen my former boss, what could ever bring this man into my life? I mean, how can this man be treating me like a tart?
How can this man always reduce me with his words everyday! Going to work now is like going to war or worse still human slaughter-house. How can I always leave my house happy and go home sad and depressed everyday! The other day, he cursed my generation and his sack threat is now like a nursery rhyme”. As Mr. Uzo was lost in deep thought of the recent happenings in his office, he heard a sound that he so much dread. He came back to reality by the realization that he has just hit someone’s car. The man quickly jumped down from his own car and quickly walked to Mr. Uzo.
“Young man, you and whoever that issued you drivers license must be real lunatics. Whatever happened to your senses if at all you have any?” Mr. Uzo cursed under his breath. “Damn it.” “I beg your pardon! You hit my car and you say damn it?” The furious man shouted angrily. “I mean sorry sir” muttered Mr. Uzo. “I’m very sorry sir. Please pardon me, I was lost in thought. Please, I beg of you. I wouldn’t mind fixing the car”. The angry man replied Mr. Uzo in a very unbelievable manner. “You must be totally out of your mind to even suggest that. I think the best you need now is to go and fix your life because you’ve gone crazy” With those words, the man jumped into his car and sped off. It took Mr. Uzo another bitter word from a man behind him to really come back to himself. Mr. Uzo got inside his car and drove off more depressed and sad.
Mr. Uzo got home and saw his children playing happily in his compound. The security officer opened his car and greeted him, “ Oga, welcome sir! “ Thank you, Akpan. Wey your madam?” “Oga madam dey inside” “Doing what! What in God’s name is she doing inside when these children run around like orphans?” “Haba Oga! Na their play time be this now, abi una don change am? Oga, dis one u dey shout like this, you fight for office?” “Your head no correct Akpan. How dare you ask me such silly question?” “Sorry Sir” answered Akpan.
Mr. Uzo stormed inside the house and continued shouting, “Honey! Honey!! And the wife rushed out to meet him in the living room. “Hello love, are you alright?” “That’s the dumbest question I’ve ever heard in this crazy world! How can you ask me such stupid question when you left the children running around like orphans?” “Honey, but this is their play time” answered Mrs. Uzo. “Don’t give me that bullshit in the name of answer” Shouted Mr. Uzo. “What in God’s name is wrong with you? How can you come back to the house ranting like that” “Oh like hell I can shout down the roof if I like. After all, this is my house!” Mrs. Uzo left the scene on seeing the prying eyes of their children and domestic staffs. Later in the night when they were in their bedroom, Mrs. Uzo angrily complained how Mr. Uzo embarrassed her before the domestic workers but Mr. Uzo was even ready to start a fight. They argued into the middle of the night when Mrs. Uzo angrily left the room in tears.

Work stress is one stress that can be very problematic in marriage if not well handled. Pressure at the workplace is unavoidable due to the demands of the contemporary work environment. Pressure perceived as acceptable by an individual, may even keep workers alert, motivated, able to work and learn, depending on the available resources and personal characteristics. However, when that pressure becomes excessive or otherwise unmanageable it leads to stress. Stress can damage an employee’s health, the business performance and even ruin his home.
Men are guiltier when it comes to managing work stress and home front. More often than usual, men take it on their wives whenever they are undergoing stress in their workplace or even business environment. It is very wrong to transfer stress from work to someone else because it will end up causing more stress.
Ways to handle work stress
1. Discuss with your spouse on what you’re going through in your work or business place so that he or she can come up with encouraging words and better ways to handle the situation.
2. In total agreement with your spouse in prayers, talk to God concerning what you’re going through.
3. Try as much as possible to identify where the stress is coming from so that you can re-strategize because it could be as a result of what you’re not doing right in your work place.
4. Create a work plan so as to work better and grow a thick skin to work with a difficult boss or even a colleague because some colleagues can even be more difficult to deal with.
5. Try as much as possible to leave the office environment in peace at the close of business every day. Just make it a habit.
6. If the stress persists, reevaluate your work plan even when you think that you’re doing everything right. In the process, you may detect where the problem is coming from.
7. If the stress becomes excessive and unbearable, please consider quitting the job especially when it’s becoming a health hazard and an enemy to your happy home.



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