I Want A Good Spouse

Whenever a normal human being wants to settle down in marriage, you will always hear things like; I want a God fearing man/woman. I want a home builder. I want a wife material. I want a husband material. I want someone that’s caring, loving, understanding, patient, down to earth, easy going and the list go on and on. All these good qualities and even more, are very good but there’s one question many refused to answer before walking down the aisle and it keeps hunting them every now and then in their relationships.

The question is, when you want good qualities in your spouse, do you also possess those good qualities? When you want your spouse to make all the sacrifice to make you happy, are you ready to do the same? Dear friend, you that desire a God fearing man or woman, are you sure that you’re God-fearing?  If you desire a decent, God fearing man or woman, how come your second home is a club house? One of the problems of man (both genders)  that is set to destroy him (both genders) is  self-deceit. I just realized that many of us have accepted to live a confused life to the extent of tempting God. How can light and darkness live in peace? How can somebody consciously choose a spouse that obviously will lead him or her to destruction in the name of “I will change him or her”? Are you Hosea? Even if you’re Hosea, have you heard from God before embarking on that journey? The truth is that no matter how we justify evil, it can never be good.

If you desire a good spouse, concentrate more on working on yourself to be a good person. Before you make a request from God, be sure of what you need not what you want. Reason is that most times, the things you desire and go for may end up destroying you. If your life style is a horrible one and you have no plan of changing it, do not bother seeking for a good spouse because you may end up destroying yourself. If you do not desire to change your evil way, kindly look for your type because your opposite cannot do you any good unless you’re ready to change. Do not get yourself entangled with someone that is not on the same page with you because you may unconsciously close your page and even chapter permanently. If God has not INSTRUCTED you to marry someone whose lifestyle is obviously worrisome, do not make that lifetime mistake of delving into the sea that you do not know the depth. Remember, if you must lend up with a good spouse, you must be good as well. If you desire to be happy in your home, you must also be ready to make someone happy. What it means is that you should be ready to give out what you wish to receive. In as much as marriage involves two people, do yourself  good by contributing your own quota to that happy home you desire. Don’t ever forget, if you must end up with a good spouse, you must also work on yourself to be a good spouse to someone.

Marriage is a beautiful experience when you understand and work with its principles. Shalom!