When Marriage Has a Crack!

Wall stands as a protective object. Every wall has an object it shields and every wall cracks once in a while. Can a cracked wall be amended? What really happens when wall has a crack? When wall has a crack, it continues to crack and if the owner refused to mend it, it will get to a point where it will eventually collapse and the object it protects becomes vulnerable to attack.
Every marriage just like wall, suffers crack once in a while. Marriages have challenges here and there. It’s neither a crime nor abomination for marriages to face challenges.
In fact, any marriage institution that does not face one challenge or the other once in a while , two things are involved; either somebody is pretending and living a fake life or someone is enduring and piling up issues and either of the two is quite DANGEROUS. A partner that pretends is just living a superficial life. Any day he (both genders) opens the pot of his real self, marks the beginning of trouble in that marriage because his partner must have gotten used to the fake version of him and may find it so difficult to adjust to the original version. A partner that prefers to endure and pile up issues is more dangerous than cobra because the day he will visit the pot of piled issues; the marriage may not survive the effect.
Marriage with issues, just like a cracked wall can be mended but the possibility lies in the hands of the two people involved. It has always been a big problem to pile up issues in marriage. As challenges arise, treat them as fast as you can. Please do not pile them up because piled issues have ended many marriages. A marriage that piles issues will eventually collapse one day just like cracked wall that was abandoned to collapse.
How do we really know when there’s a crack in our marriage?
There’s a crack in your marriage when;

1. As husband and wife, you don’t sleep in the same room or bed. People may not really know the sanctity of matrimonial room and bed. I see matrimonial room and bed as a sanctuary. It is a sanctuary because that’s where the consummation of marriage takes place. It is a sanctuary because that is a possible place where a new image of God (fetus) is formed. It is a sanctuary because it’s where misunderstandings are settled. It is a place where intimate conversation meant for two alone, takes place. It is a sanctuary because it’s a place where vows are solidified and reassured. It is a sanctuary because that’s where a troubled husband or wife find’s comfort, solace, courage, motivation and strength in the arms of his or her spouse. If you have not been sharing a room together as husband and wife, you have a deep crack in your marriage and the faster you amend it the better.
2. You have a crack in your marriage if you no longer eat together from the same plate, unless you started like that from day one. Any couple that doesn’t eat together is missing a great experience that cannot be explained. Just try eating together or resume eating together and you will understand it better.
3. You have a crack in your marriage when you do not bathe together anymore. If you were bathing together before now and all of a sudden you stopped, something must have happened and there is need to sort whatever that happened out as soon as possible.

4. There’s a deep crack in your marriage when you’re married and lonely. The major reason God established the institution of marriage is COMPANIONSHIP. So, there is a very deep crack that needs urgent attention when you’re married and still seek for companionship from someone else other than your spouse. This is a very dangerous crack that could lead to infidelity. It is so dangerous that it can reduce marriage relationship to a pile of ruins in a twinkle of an eye. Please do something this minute to mend the crack
5. You have a crack in your marriage if suddenly your spouse changes from “Honey, Sugar, Baby, Sweet, Sunshine, Sweetheart, Darling etc., TO Papa Junior, Mama Ada, Daddy Favor, Mummy Junior, etc.” You’re indirectly saying the Honey has gone sour, the Sweetheart has turn bitter, the Baby has grown to adult and should be abandoned to fend for himself or herself. Please, quickly locate the cracked wall and mend it.
6. You have deep crack in your marriage when all of a sudden, some issues are treated as secrets and hidden from your spouse, you now keep secret bank accounts, secret investments (unless it’s a prepared surprise) and you refuse to take part in family upkeep. Please mend that crack before it gets beyond repair.
7. You have a crack in your marriage if you are a wonderful Daddy or wife in the Church but a terrible husband or wife at home. If you are always in the church binding demons and taking care of everybody that comes your way while your marriage has turned to war platform, with that same spirit of high spiritualism and loving/caring attitude, go back home and mend your home first because there’s a crack in your marriage. Charity they say begins at home. You cannot be a success outside and a failure at home. If you do not mend that cracked wall in your marriage, you may end up as a big failure. Please do something before it becomes too late.
8. You have a very deep crack in your marriage when you do not pray together at least ONCE in a day. Run as fast as you can because I can see danger hovering around.

Nobody came into this world a perfect being and nobody will leave this world a perfect being. If we were all perfect, there wouldn’t be need for the race. If we were all created perfect, it would have been such a boring world because all our actions would have been predictable. The last time I checked, there is NO perfect marriage on this planet earth. We all make mistakes in life, no matter how little but the ability to correct the mistakes to move on is what sets the pace. If you’re reading this piece with a crack in your marriage, I’m here to tell you with full confidence that just as cracked wall can be mended, cracked marriage can also be mended. You may be feeling that you have made the worst mistake in the world or the crack has gone beyond repair, as long as the two pillars (husband and wife) are still standing, it can still be mended. Break free from that shackles to enjoy the unique institution God blessed you with. Don’t take issues too serious with your partner, loosen up! Crack your normal jokes. Play your silly games, giggle and catch fun as you should. Exchange unusual gifts (undies and night wears) especially on special days like birthday. MEN PLEASE REMEMBER YOUR WIVES BIRTHDAY AND CELEBRATE THEM. WOMEN DON’T ALWAYS BE THE HAND THAT ONLY RECEIVES ALSO LEARN TO BE HANDS THAT GIVES, ESPECIALLY ON SPECIAL DAYS LIKE BIRTHDAY. Keep no secret from each other. Let all hands be on deck on family responsibilities (finance inclusive). You can’t afford to deny yourself the beautiful fruits of good relationship. Please mend that cracked wall before it collapses.
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