A Godly Society Begins With You!

If you desire for a beautiful garden, cultivate good plant and prune it as required. If you desire for a bountiful harvest, sow a good seed and nurture it to grow as it should. If you desire for a good spouse, work on yourself to be a good person. If you desire for a peaceful home, strive to be a symbol of peace in your home. If you wish for a great society, raise a godly family because family is the unit of the society. If you pray for a better generation, nurture your children because they are the seed to the next generation.

You see, most problems we encounter in life actually have root in us. That is to say that consciously or unconsciously, we are the architect of our problems. We complain and cry out in loud voice on how bad things have turned out in the recent time in our society but there is a question we all especially parents/potential parents/adults in general should answer and that is, are we contributing to what we are crying and complaining about? Do not be too fast to answer until you ponder on this;

As a mother or father, do you abuse your spouse in the presence of your children? Do you tell them how irresponsible their father or mother is? Do you take pleasure in taking the glory of a better parent than your spouse? Do you know what? You are not only ruining yourself but also those children you want to turn their hearts against their father or mother. It doesn’t end there. You’re also raising children that will be a nuisance to the society and a society that will be a problem to a generation and a generation that will definitely be in chaos. This is so because when you abuse your spouse before your children, you are also painting a negative picture of marriage and family for them and do not be surprised tomorrow when you see the duplicate of your actions in your children’s marriages and families. You’re simply abusing them. Until you live with the consciousness that raising children is like sowing a seed and whatever you sow is what you reap, you will never understand the good or harm you are doing to your children with your actions and attitude.

Mothers, if you really love your children and want the best for them, please love their fathers. Fathers, if you love your children and want the best for them as you claim, please love their mothers. As a parent, the best you can do to your child is to love his father/mother. Children grow, develop and learn good attitude in an environment enriched with love. No matter what your spouse did, please do not reprimand him/her in presence of your children. The action speaks louder than any evil words you may even use. Keep your emotions in check, no matter how angry you may be. There is a place called bedroom where such issues can be sorted out, not under the watchful eyes of those innocent children. Do not unconsciously teach your children how to be abusive, rude and even violent. If you do, their action will not end just in your home but in the society at large. Raising children goes beyond singing morals to them. They learn more when they see you do and act those things you sing to them as songs every day. Have you ever wondered how mockery it would be if you tell your children that abusive words are wrong but can’t desist from using the same abusive words on their father or mother? A case of take my words and not my action? Do you know what happens when a child discovers that you as an adult can lie too? He quickly receives this perception that though people can actually say “Don’t lie it is not good” but the real picture is “lie but make sure that you are not caught”. Do you know the level of harm you do to your children when you fight with your spouse?

Can you really be proud to see your child exhibit your life style in future? Can you confidently pray for your daughter to be a wife you’ve been to your husband? Can you pray to God for your son to be a kind of husband you’ve been to your wife all these years? Is there any habit or character you wouldn’t want to see in your child when he or she is of age? Make sure that you are not living with such habit or character. Is there any lifestyle of yours that you hide from your children because you are not proud of it? Do away with it because there’s every possibility that he or she is already aware of it. Plant that wonderful society that you wish to see in the world today. Sow that great generation you desire for today. A godly society, a great generation, begins with you!

Shalom!