Another Possible Reason Why He Hasn’t Proposed…

Guard your self-worth and stick to your values. Recently a girl came to me with a heavy heart. She told me a story that kept me wondering where our self-worth has gone to. This is her story. She has been going out with this guy for three years and the relationship has no bearing, if you know what I mean. Each time she summons courage to ask him where their relationship is heading to, the man in question would always insult her to her marrows, telling her that she's too desperate and then wraps it up with a threat to dump her if she ever brings up the topic. This has been going on until the recent incident that jolted her to her feet. This time around, he didn’t stop at threatening to leave her but he had to make his point clear by talking to her with his fist. He bit her up to make his point very loud and clear. In the course of our discussion, I discovered that either the lady threw her self-worth away, or she never had it in the first place. After hearing her pathetic story which she narrated in tears, I told her that she had no future with the man in question. She broke down in uncontrollable tears; went down on her knees, begging me to call the man and plead with him to marry her that he will listen to me. I told her that I will do no such thing. I had to shout at her when she said that she will die if she can't have him. I guess the shouting brought back her sanity because that was when she calmed down and started listening to me. At the end of our discussion, she discovered that she has been toiling with her self-worth and has been in abusive relationship. She made a decision to put her life in order, to start it right so as to get it right.

I narrated this story so that those that are having similar experiences will know exactly what to do immediately. These days, a lot of ladies are doing funny abnormal things and living abnormal life just to keep a man and I have a word for you if you're one of them. There's no man on earth you cannot live without and any man that doesn't respect you as a woman, doesn't deserve you. Lose him and let him go! Any day you give a man an impression that “he's your god, if he doesn't marry you no one will or you will die, he's too good for you so you can’t afford to lose him”, marks the destruction of your self-worth. Don't ever beg a man to marry you, that's a wonderful way of trampling on your self-worth and that cannot make him to marry you. If he doesn't love you, respect you and desire you, then he doesn't deserve you. A man that doesn’t deserve you shouldn’t marry you because he will make your life miserable. We don’t deserve whatever we don’t desire, because when we pick it on a platter of gold, we don’t value it. When a man knows that your self-worth is intact, he will accord you maximum respect and live with the consciousness that you're unique. This self-worth is not sold in any market or anywhere, it can only be developed, built, groomed and guarded with jealousy. Ladies, guard your self-worth and stick to your value. It’s priceless and you can’t afford to lose it.  Remember, if he doesn’t love, respect and desire you, he doesn’t deserve you. Shalom!